Describe someone doing something you respect. What is being done — and how?

Notice your tone of voice (mine drops). Feel the sensations surrounding your eyes. Do you breathe differently?

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Practice: Describe a behavior you respect. Be specific. “The way she listened with her whole body, as if she had all the time in the world.”

Describe its effect on you, whatever it is: “I felt admiration, followed by envy.” “My chest warmed and my hands grew tingly.” Again, be as specific as you can.