I don’t mind being called a dumb blond because I know I’m not dumb and I know I’m not blond.
Poses have meaning. When you put on a jacket, are you dressing up? Conforming? Wearing drag? Strutting your stuff? Secretly Clark Kent?
Its meaning is in your hands, which means you have options.
Practice: Identify one of your poses. (This may take a while. Once a pose becomes habitual, it feels like who you are.)
Advanced practice: Decide whether it still serves you.